Psicoterapia Soteldo
A Person-Centered Approach to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Codependency
by Raquel Soteldo RP
A Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician
(343) 312-5283
Dating-After-Narcissistic-Abuse Coach
As your coach and therapist, I provide advice, guidance, and support to individuals looking to improve their dating and relationship skills. A dating coach can help clients overcome personal barriers, improve their self-confidence, refine their communication skills, identify their dating goals and build lasting, meaningful relationships.
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The role of a dating coach includes:
Self-Discovery:
A dating coach helps clients to explore and get familiar with their unique personality traits, strengths, and weaknesses, to align their self-awareness with their dating goals.
Goal-setting:
A dating coach helps clients to set realistic and attainable dating goals based on their personality, values, and a range of personal factors.
Effective Communication:
A dating coach helps clients to build healthy and positive communication skills or to refine their existing communication techniques, including how to communicate with different genders, recognize emotional triggers and improve listening skills to enhance relationships.
Feedback and Advice:
A dating coach provides honest feedback and advice about dating techniques, relationship behaviours, and style, educational insight or provides individualized homework tasks to practice and enhance acquired learning.
Taking Action:
A dating coach assists and guides clients to take action and step out of their comfort zones to meet new people and increase their confidence both with themselves and in social spaces.
Dating after narcissistic abuse can be a challenging and emotional experience as the aftermath of such a relationship can affect someone's dating life, trust, and self-confidence. Here are some steps that can help you navigate this experience:
Take it Slow:
Take your time to heal and give yourself space before you start dating again. Give yourself time to reflect on what happened in the abusive relationship and work through your emotions.
Learn about Narcissism:
Take some time to educate yourself on narcissism and its effects, so that you can recognize any red flags that may come up on your journey.
Set Healthy Boundaries:
When you start dating again set clear boundaries - emotionally, mentally and physically. This ensures that all your limits are established and makes it easier for you to know when to say "no."
Seek Professional Help:
Consider seeking the help of a therapist who can provide therapy sessions for narcissistic abuse recovery. A therapist can help you identify patterns and triggers, work on your self-esteem, and develop healthy relationships.
Self-care:
Taking care of oneself after narcissistic abuse is essential, including practicing stress-reducing activities and mindfulness techniques, creating daily healthy routines, and engaging in physical activities.
Focus on Yourself:
Focus on your overall well-being, do activities and hobbies that give you joy and fulfilment and put your energy into your personal growth.
Remember that the impact of narcissistic abuse can linger on for long periods, it’s important to be patient, consistent, and tend to yourself with care before looking at starting a new relationship. It is necessary to prioritize self-care, establishing healthy boundaries, and choosing to meet new people at your own pace while focusing holistically on your overall life satisfaction.
Counselor: Raquel Soteldo
Dating again after experiencing narcissistic abuse can be a challenging process, where trust and vulnerability are difficult to regain. It can be tempting to withdraw or enter into a new relationship too hastily. Nevertheless, self-care through this process can help individuals through the healing process and create healthy relationships moving forward. Here are some self-care strategies for dating after narcissistic abuse.
